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xmas74

(30,054 posts)
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 10:59 PM 19 hrs ago

Almost 4 years with no issues but tonight it's back.

My ovarian cancer has returned.
I'm just a bit frustrated,tired of putting on a calm brave front for everyone else. I just needed to say it.

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Almost 4 years with no issues but tonight it's back. (Original Post) xmas74 19 hrs ago OP
Healing vibes on the way to you. SheltieLover 19 hrs ago #1
Sending you warmth and healing vibes Lifeafter70 19 hrs ago #2
And MORE healing vibes heading your way! calimary 19 hrs ago #3
You did it before. You got what it takes. marble falls 19 hrs ago #4
Some love and hugs to you, xmas. sheshe2 19 hrs ago #5
So sorry, xmas74. Holding you in my heart. Stay strong. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 19 hrs ago #6
Oh no leftstreet 19 hrs ago #7
No need for a brave front here. We are here for when you need to cry, scream or vent. Marie Marie 19 hrs ago #8
I'm so sorry, Xmas74. HeartsCanHope 19 hrs ago #9
Sending DU vibes and hope for your healing Wicked Blue 19 hrs ago #10
You're a survivor with another battle to fight and we're here for you so keep in touch ((🫶)) Deuxcents 19 hrs ago #11
That absolutely sucks. Especially making it four years cancer free. I'm a survivor Greybnk48 19 hrs ago #12
You're strong mr715 19 hrs ago #13
Why put on a brave front? Figarosmom 19 hrs ago #14
My daughter is in her twenties xmas74 17 hrs ago #33
I had wondered the same thing as Figarosmom 70sEraVet 8 hrs ago #46
It is a silent sneaky monster, I send my support and wishes for you to beat it back again, ShazamIam 19 hrs ago #15
I am so sorry for your bad news Xmas74. JMCKUSICK 19 hrs ago #16
I'm sorry to hear this. Beat it again for another four years, then another four, then another... LoisB 19 hrs ago #17
I'm So Sorry, xmas! 💔 ☮️🌻🕯️🕊️💜 Cha 18 hrs ago #18
I'm sorry. area51 18 hrs ago #19
I'm sorry, xmas74 Solly Mack 18 hrs ago #20
Easy for me to say... BurnDoubt 18 hrs ago #21
🫂 mwmisses4289 18 hrs ago #22
"" AllaN01Bear 18 hrs ago #23
I'm sorry cate94 18 hrs ago #24
Ugh holding you in the light róisín_dubh 18 hrs ago #25
So sorry blueknight73 18 hrs ago #26
I am glad you said it. murielm99 18 hrs ago #27
May you be surrounded by Emerald Green Healing Light. Bread and Circuses 18 hrs ago #28
..... Skittles 18 hrs ago #29
Oh xmas74, scream away! I am so sorry you got hit with this after four brave years of holding this monster at bay! We KitFox 17 hrs ago #30
love + light + peaceful healing vibes sent to you -- fierywoman 17 hrs ago #31
You will be in my prayers LetMyPeopleVote 17 hrs ago #32
I am so very sorry to read this. irisblue 17 hrs ago #34
Well, damn Randomthought 17 hrs ago #35
Oh xmas74, so sorry you are dealing with it again. summer_in_TX 17 hrs ago #36
Sending strength to you democrank 17 hrs ago #37
Ovarian cancer is one of the evil, silent ones DFW 15 hrs ago #38
I so hope you quickly clear it and have robust health. Big hugz. Celerity 14 hrs ago #39
Damn, cancer sucks. Sending healing vibes and hope it clears out quickly. ms liberty 11 hrs ago #40
This is tough. Prayers. Joinfortmill 10 hrs ago #41
We can hear whatever truth you want to share duhneece 9 hrs ago #42
Sending strength (and patience) your way - OddMom20 9 hrs ago #43
Disappointing news for you and your family. Hope it has not spread beyond the ovaries. Fla Dem 8 hrs ago #44
I had a supracervical hysterectomy in April 2022 xmas74 50 min ago #67
I'm so sorry. yardwork 8 hrs ago #45
Damn xmas74, you do WHATEVER gets you through this!!!! a kennedy 8 hrs ago #47
I'm so sorry. You should do this however you want to. It's not about anyone else. Maru Kitteh 8 hrs ago #48
So sorry Mz Pip 8 hrs ago #49
I hear you. mercuryblues 7 hrs ago #50
Yet another case of cancer!! Playingmantis 7 hrs ago #51
I'm so sorry, xmas. My mother had ovarian, and I know brer cat 6 hrs ago #52
Surrounding you in light. Nanjeanne 6 hrs ago #53
Love and virtual hugs from me to you, xmas 74. generalbetrayus 6 hrs ago #54
I am so, so sorry you are having to deal with this again. Trueblue Texan 5 hrs ago #55
I'm so sorry! barbtries 4 hrs ago #56
We're here for you so please lean on your DU family. Nevilledog 4 hrs ago #57
Something to give you heart to carry on Xmas popsdenver 4 hrs ago #58
cancer return maliaSmith 3 hrs ago #59
I'm sorry that you are going through this Danmel 3 hrs ago #60
Damn!! I am sorry to see this.. mountain grammy 3 hrs ago #61
Scream here all you need to. stage left 2 hrs ago #62
I am so sorry cally 2 hrs ago #63
K&R spanone 2 hrs ago #64
Many of us are with you. Sparkly 1 hr ago #65
Cancer is awful mvd 1 hr ago #66
All best wishes for you and you're brave regardless. Passages 2 min ago #68

calimary

(89,940 posts)
3. And MORE healing vibes heading your way!
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:02 PM
19 hrs ago

And if it helps at all, you can always feel free to vent about it. Right HERE with your DU friends!

Marie Marie

(11,260 posts)
8. No need for a brave front here. We are here for when you need to cry, scream or vent.
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:24 PM
19 hrs ago

Please use us as needed and keep us posted on your journey. We care.

HeartsCanHope

(1,665 posts)
9. I'm so sorry, Xmas74.
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:28 PM
19 hrs ago

Sending healing vibes to you and lots of light and love.

I will keep you in my thoughts.

Wicked Blue

(8,853 posts)
10. Sending DU vibes and hope for your healing
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:30 PM
19 hrs ago

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Deuxcents

(26,789 posts)
11. You're a survivor with another battle to fight and we're here for you so keep in touch ((🫶))
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:30 PM
19 hrs ago

Greybnk48

(10,720 posts)
12. That absolutely sucks. Especially making it four years cancer free. I'm a survivor
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:31 PM
19 hrs ago

of uterine cancer and I know how you must feel. When you get back on treatment, I wish you all the luck in the world and I will be keeping you in my thoughts.
Take care and don't think you have to be calm or brave at all. Fuck cancer! Rage, cry, whatever helps you vent your fear and frustration, and then do your best to beat this!

Figarosmom

(11,835 posts)
14. Why put on a brave front?
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:35 PM
19 hrs ago

You've got to be pissed and scared. You should be able to vent those flings instead of denying them. Scream and stomp. Do what makes you feel better.

xmas74

(30,054 posts)
33. My daughter is in her twenties
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:26 AM
17 hrs ago

She already lost her father and saw me go through this once before. I need to keep it together for her.

70sEraVet

(5,465 posts)
46. I had wondered the same thing as Figarosmom
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:28 AM
8 hrs ago

I see now, and you are right. We owe that to our loved ones.
I wish you the best of luck in recovering.

ShazamIam

(3,114 posts)
15. It is a silent sneaky monster, I send my support and wishes for you to beat it back again,
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:41 PM
19 hrs ago

LoisB

(12,976 posts)
17. I'm sorry to hear this. Beat it again for another four years, then another four, then another...
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:53 PM
19 hrs ago

Cha

(318,845 posts)
18. I'm So Sorry, xmas! 💔 ☮️🌻🕯️🕊️💜
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:01 AM
18 hrs ago
I fervently Hope you can beat This like you did the last time.

BurnDoubt

(1,692 posts)
21. Easy for me to say...
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:03 AM
18 hrs ago

But squeeze the Day. Scoop up all the Love you can. I'm sending mine. I like to think it's currency in our next iteration, whatever it is. But, in this Life it is for certain, and may well be a tonic to marshal your Spirit to meet the future and prevail once again.
We're all here for you.

róisín_dubh

(12,323 posts)
25. Ugh holding you in the light
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:30 AM
18 hrs ago

Cancer is a nefarious bastard. My partner has prostate cancer and we are only just at the beginning of his journey. I wish you the very best.

murielm99

(32,971 posts)
27. I am glad you said it.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:39 AM
18 hrs ago

I hope it helps to say it here. Cancer sucks. I wish I could help.

KitFox

(557 posts)
30. Oh xmas74, scream away! I am so sorry you got hit with this after four brave years of holding this monster at bay! We
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:11 AM
17 hrs ago

are here every day and will send our collective caring for you to gather up into your arsenal to kick the hell out of it again. Cancer is the ugliest “C word” by far and away. Gentle hugs to you dear heart. 🩷

summer_in_TX

(4,158 posts)
36. Oh xmas74, so sorry you are dealing with it again.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:39 AM
17 hrs ago

This is a good place not to have to put on a brave face. We've got you. Hoping for the very best for you.


DFW

(60,149 posts)
38. Ovarian cancer is one of the evil, silent ones
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 03:49 AM
15 hrs ago

And you were getting so close to the « five year, outta here » mark. There’s nothing left to do but try, try again to beat it. Ten years ago, my wife was there, did that. It CAN be done, no matter how bad the initial news. I realize that it’s « easy for us to say, » but don’t give up and don’t lose hope.

duhneece

(4,507 posts)
42. We can hear whatever truth you want to share
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 09:05 AM
9 hrs ago

We’re a big DU family and we are with you in spirit.
Sending healing/strength/comfort and love prayers/vibes your way.

OddMom20

(68 posts)
43. Sending strength (and patience) your way -
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 09:24 AM
9 hrs ago

I can only imagine the frustration of not being able to “fix” this. I’m sorry you’re having to carry this weight and will be thinking of you!

Fla Dem

(27,615 posts)
44. Disappointing news for you and your family. Hope it has not spread beyond the ovaries.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:22 AM
8 hrs ago

If you haven't already had a hysterectomy, I hope your doctor suggests you do.

Been there.

xmas74

(30,054 posts)
67. I had a supracervical hysterectomy in April 2022
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 06:04 PM
50 min ago

And omentum removal. This seems to b2 attached to the surgical incision.

Maru Kitteh

(31,743 posts)
48. I'm so sorry. You should do this however you want to. It's not about anyone else.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:32 AM
8 hrs ago

It’s your body. It’s your life. Nobody else’s. You have my heartfelt thoughts and wishes.



brer cat

(27,569 posts)
52. I'm so sorry, xmas. My mother had ovarian, and I know
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 11:59 AM
6 hrs ago

how devastating "it's back" can be. Holding you in my heart.

generalbetrayus

(1,828 posts)
54. Love and virtual hugs from me to you, xmas 74.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:04 PM
6 hrs ago

Ovarian cancer took my dear sister Debby from us in 2013. I still miss her. And DON"T feel you have to put on a calm brave front for everyone else. You're sick and everyone else needs to deal with it, even your daughter!

Trueblue Texan

(4,438 posts)
55. I am so, so sorry you are having to deal with this again.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:53 PM
5 hrs ago

Scream, cuss, tear your hair out if you need to. That part will pass and you will move forward with what needs to be done. I fear the same everyday. Whatever your way forward, I am sending my thoughts of healing and peace. Take care.

Nevilledog

(55,071 posts)
57. We're here for you so please lean on your DU family.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 02:31 PM
4 hrs ago

Sending you love and healing vibes.

popsdenver

(2,242 posts)
58. Something to give you heart to carry on Xmas
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 02:33 PM
4 hrs ago

TEN YEARS AGO......, my wife was diagnosed with Stage Four, "END STAGE" GAME OVER CANCER........

The Medical community kept discovering a bunch of things, almost monthly, that have kept her not only living but functioning.....

Both of us realize the Medical Researchers can't keep what we call "Hail Mary's" coming forever, but so far we have had TEN YEARS more at this time.....Decent, functioning years........

Keep up your faith, don't throw in the towel just yet Xmas.....

( Side Note: Don't expect ANY kindness from the Incredibly, outrageously, extremely, Greedy Pharmaceutical Corporations)

maliaSmith

(199 posts)
59. cancer return
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 03:15 PM
3 hrs ago

I'm so sorry. I hope you win your cancer fight!

O T
I'm writing here to inform all women to ignore when a doctor tells an older woman she no longer has to have or needs to get a yearly PAP test. My doctor and my sister's doctor told each of us that we no longer needed to get PAP test since we were 65 + years old. My sister believed her doctor and stopped getting the test. 5 years later, she was diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer and lost her life. I on the other hand, forced my doctor to refer me to a OBGYN doctor and continue to get my yearly tests, and my insurance pays for it. I just want to inform other women to never stop getting that lifesaving PAP test along with your yearly Mammogram. These tests can save your life. I just wish my sister had continued to ger her PAP tests. I miss her dearly.

mountain grammy

(29,009 posts)
61. Damn!! I am sorry to see this..
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 03:34 PM
3 hrs ago

wishing you all the best.. I have read of progress in the last 4 years, hopefully it will benefit you..

sure wish we had elected Hillary in 2016.. I think the "Cancer Moonshot" would have been an all out assault on this dreaded disease.

cally

(21,865 posts)
63. I am so sorry
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 04:18 PM
2 hrs ago

Scary but hoping that a sense of calm and hope returns without faking it.

Sparkly

(24,885 posts)
65. Many of us are with you.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 05:00 PM
1 hr ago

Cancer sucks.

Please give yourself time, self-care, self-indulgence even, and spaces where you don't feel that calm, brave front is necessary.

mvd

(65,911 posts)
66. Cancer is awful
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 05:27 PM
1 hr ago

I lost my dad to it at only 72. Every day I pray we cure that insidious disease. Sending healing vibes for you and you’ll beat this.

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