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Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 07:31 PM Yesterday

Well, my husband just got laid off

with two weeks' notice. He's one of 500 people being let go.

In some ways it's a mixed blessing. The job is so high-stress that I've worried he could have a heart attack. He works late nights, weekends, holidays. Last night he worked past 4 a.m. At least he's been able to work from home in recent years. Last year he couldn't even take time off for a vacation.

His employer contracts with the federal government. He has a top secret security clearance and manages databases for two US government agencies. When there's a government shutdown, his job is mission-critical so he has to keep working. He's been there about 13 years as a senior Oracle DBA. He was planning to retire after he turns 70 this fall.

Well, I just needed to let off some steam. Thanks for reading.












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Well, my husband just got laid off (Original Post) Wicked Blue Yesterday OP
I'm so sorry not sorry! ms liberty Yesterday #1
Thank you Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #20
69 is a good age to retire KS Toronado 1 hr ago #54
I'm sorry things didn't go as planned but I hope it ends up being a blessing anyway biophile Yesterday #2
Thank you Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #21
I hope he can just retire & enjoy life now! SheltieLover Yesterday #3
Thanks, SheltieLover Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #22
Been there, security clearance, government contractor... LuckyCharms Yesterday #4
Thanks for the encouragement Wicked Blue 23 hrs ago #6
Sorry to hear. Bristlecone 23 hrs ago #5
Thank you Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #23
Get a few thumb drives . . . AverageOldGuy 23 hrs ago #7
I think what you're suggesting may be a crime AZ8theist 22 hrs ago #12
He has to return the laptop Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #25
he has a security clearance lapfog_1 2 hrs ago #51
At age 69 he may have a case to sue and be allowed to retire as an alternative to being laid off. patphil 23 hrs ago #8
It might depend what's better retirement vs severance package. dflprincess 22 hrs ago #18
We have to watch our pennies Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #26
Sorry to hear this... jlshaw47 23 hrs ago #9
Thanks Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #28
Collect unemployment - then RETIRE! nt Exp 22 hrs ago #10
Thanks for the reminder - I forgot about unemployment Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #30
I'll be joining him soon Xipe Totec 22 hrs ago #11
Best of luck to you! Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #31
Hey, I hope this all ends up being a better thing. herding cats 22 hrs ago #13
Thank you so much! Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #32
Sorry to hear that. Coloradan4Truth 22 hrs ago #14
The federal government is being destroyed Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #33
Hi Wicked... Coloradan4Truth 10 hrs ago #44
Good to hear Wicked Blue 6 hrs ago #47
Now, versus nine months from now? nilram 22 hrs ago #15
You raise some great points Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #35
Unemployed ms.pamela 22 hrs ago #16
Thank goodness he didn't work for Oracle! Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #36
I'm so sorry! Solly Mack 22 hrs ago #17
Thanks, Solly! Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #37
If they lay off 500 people they are required to give you more pay/motive than that JT45242 21 hrs ago #19
Is that for government employees? Wicked Blue 21 hrs ago #38
I think it is all companies of that size...@omahasteve JT45242 11 hrs ago #43
Actually my son-in-law is a labor lawyer Wicked Blue 6 hrs ago #46
Best of Luck With This modrepub 21 hrs ago #24
Thanks! I really hope he doesn't work full time any more Wicked Blue 20 hrs ago #39
I'm sorry to hear that. area51 21 hrs ago #27
Thank you, area51 Wicked Blue 20 hrs ago #40
trump is ruthless, vile and sadistic vapor2 21 hrs ago #29
I feel terrible for the federal workers who got DOGEd. Wicked Blue 20 hrs ago #41
Hope it turns into a blessing for you Lifeafter70 21 hrs ago #34
It's good that you can spend more time with your son. Wicked Blue 20 hrs ago #42
Apply for unemployment, food stamps, whatever is currently available. stollen 10 hrs ago #45
Unemployment is definitely a possibility Wicked Blue 6 hrs ago #48
While Still A Drag... ProfessorGAC 3 hrs ago #49
I hope so too Wicked Blue 2 hrs ago #50
I don't mean to be too personal, but he's still working at 69? Mark.b2 1 hr ago #52
It might be a blessing in disguise (regardless of what they say, you do not have to work until you drop). waterwatcher123 1 hr ago #53
I'm so sorry he was laid off, but it does sound like the job was dangerously stressful. Maybe he highplainsdem 33 min ago #55

biophile

(1,304 posts)
2. I'm sorry things didn't go as planned but I hope it ends up being a blessing anyway
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 07:36 PM
Yesterday

Sometimes, when decisions like this are made for us, it works out well. May this be the case for you and your husband!

LuckyCharms

(22,173 posts)
4. Been there, security clearance, government contractor...
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 07:43 PM
Yesterday

wicked hours.

You'll find out it's for the best.

it sounds like you will be ok financially since he was so close to retirement...so it may be a blessing!

Also, there may be a good chance that he can be hired as a consultant, maybe even hired as one by the same company, if he wishes to keep working for awhile.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
6. Thanks for the encouragement
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:12 PM
23 hrs ago

I'm not sure he'd want to do consulting - he'll figure something out.

Fortunately we don't have a mortgage.-


AverageOldGuy

(3,562 posts)
7. Get a few thumb drives . . .
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:32 PM
23 hrs ago

. . . . 16GB, 32GB, whatever.

Copy onto the thumb drives EVERTYHING he is working on.

Keep an inventory.

Give the inventory to a trusted friend so you don't have the inventory in your possession.

Erase all that from your computer and ditch the computer, or, do the work on a public wifi on a throw-away tablet or laptop. Then throw the device away.

Secret the thumb drives somewhere.

You'll know when to pull out the thumb drives and give them to the press.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
25. He has to return the laptop
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:30 PM
21 hrs ago

and Security would find out if he tried to download stuff. They monitor everything.

I don't think there's anything actually newsworthy regarding his clients.

lapfog_1

(31,776 posts)
51. he has a security clearance
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 05:18 PM
2 hrs ago

taking data out of his workplace is a federal crime and punishable by decades in prison.

And unlike trump, he won't get away with it.

patphil

(8,837 posts)
8. At age 69 he may have a case to sue and be allowed to retire as an alternative to being laid off.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:36 PM
23 hrs ago

You should get a lawyer and see what your legal alternatives are.

jlshaw47

(8 posts)
9. Sorry to hear this...
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:46 PM
23 hrs ago

…. Unfortunately just another chickenshit, mean spirited attack on a hard working public servant…. I hope it turns out to be a blessing.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
28. Thanks
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:35 PM
21 hrs ago

Actually he's not a government employee - works for a contractor.

His sister was a federal employee at the National Center for Atmospheric Research. She managed to retire just before the layoffs there started.

Xipe Totec

(44,507 posts)
11. I'll be joining him soon
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:59 PM
22 hrs ago

I'm just waiting to deliver the news. I turn 70 on Feb 12th. I'll tender my resignation the next day, Friday the 13th.

Time to walk away.

herding cats

(19,996 posts)
13. Hey, I hope this all ends up being a better thing.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:15 PM
22 hrs ago

My heart and thoughts are with you. I have faith you'll end up being good.

Coloradan4Truth

(405 posts)
14. Sorry to hear that.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:21 PM
22 hrs ago

I left a federal job last year before I really wanted to, but I couldn't stand what was happening in the agency.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
33. The federal government is being destroyed
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:38 PM
21 hrs ago

and the people now running it are monsters

I hope things are working out okay for you.

Coloradan4Truth

(405 posts)
44. Hi Wicked...
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 09:11 AM
10 hrs ago

Yes, I am doing well. I had only about 5 years to go anyway and thought I could take the hit better than younger folks. Also, I am a woke, minority, tree-hugger, so it wasn't going to be the dream job I loved anymore. I am catching little jobs now from friends who need my talents.

nilram

(3,507 posts)
15. Now, versus nine months from now?
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:31 PM
22 hrs ago

I hope you guys have a beautiful summer!

I agree with the thought of collecting unemployment. In this environment, he is unlikely to be audited if he doesn't complete the required number of job searches each and every week.

If he eventually does some consulting, it doesn't have to be direct, he could be an hourly employee of a service bureau. I've liked that for myself, it feels very honest. An hour of work: an hour of pay. (Though if he was direct to the government, he may have had a good arrangement.)

Layoffs are unsettling, and annoying. You guys are in such a great position, though, being without a mortgage. And now you both can attend more protests!

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
35. You raise some great points
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:43 PM
21 hrs ago

This all just happened and he hasn't really had time to think about what's next. Especially after getting only 4 hours' sleep last night because he worked until the wee hours. He's worked so many hours of unpaid OT that it could have amounted to year's pay or more.

ms.pamela

(81 posts)
16. Unemployed
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 09:32 PM
22 hrs ago

Oracle is not a very good company. They hired a friend of mine and had her work her ass off for about 8 to 10 months traveling all over the country making an international data base of anyone who was in any American hospitals' records with the bullshit reasoning that any doctor in the world could access your medical records if needed. After this work was almost complete, they laid about 2000 people working on this project off with little notice.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
36. Thank goodness he didn't work for Oracle!
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:46 PM
21 hrs ago

He worked for a federal contracting company that has contracts with various federal agencies.

JT45242

(3,923 posts)
19. If they lay off 500 people they are required to give you more pay/motive than that
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:10 PM
21 hrs ago

That should trigger the WARN act and 60 days pay. It still.sucks, but could give you time to find something.

JT45242

(3,923 posts)
43. I think it is all companies of that size...@omahasteve
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 08:13 AM
11 hrs ago

Omaha Steve or one of our legal eagles may be able to clarify. If not would be worth looking into finding a pro bono labor lawyer to see if they can help

modrepub

(4,019 posts)
24. Best of Luck With This
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:29 PM
21 hrs ago

Try and be as supportive as you can. Hopefully, in-time, things will work out for both of you.

Wife lost her job of almost 30 years in her early 50s. Work is a major part of her identity. She did eventually find something she enjoys but it took awhile and a lot of hustle.

TBH, I’d say your husband may have worked his last “real” job. Father was a main frame programmer laid off in his mid 50s. Was delivering for a deli before he finally retired.

I wish you and your husband much luck and joy in whatever you both decide to do next.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
39. Thanks! I really hope he doesn't work full time any more
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:53 PM
20 hrs ago

I'm sorry to hear about your wife's job loss.

I was laid off at 58 from a public relations company - had 25 years as a journalist before that. Did a little freelancing but that dried up too, and nobody seems to hire older women. I loved newspapeer reporting but I no longer have the energy for that at 73.

Wicked Blue

(8,721 posts)
41. I feel terrible for the federal workers who got DOGEd.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:57 PM
20 hrs ago

At least my husband wasn't a fed. He worked for a government contractor.

So many people have lost jobs in the past year - I am afraid we may have a recession or worse.

Lifeafter70

(805 posts)
34. Hope it turns into a blessing for you
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 10:42 PM
21 hrs ago

I retired not by choice last October. Was planning on working another two years.
My son went into hospice and I'm his caregiver. I was short 21 hours to qualify for fmla.
It turned into a blessing for me because it allows me to spend time with my son and not having to split my time between him and my job.
Sometimes life decides for you.

stollen

(1,069 posts)
45. Apply for unemployment, food stamps, whatever is currently available.
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 09:43 AM
10 hrs ago

Live off that for now. No one should have such a high stress job like that with no end in sight.

ProfessorGAC

(76,132 posts)
49. While Still A Drag...
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 03:59 PM
3 hrs ago

...it's only pushing retirement forward a few months, instead of a few (or more years).
Hope his retirement is as fulfilling as mine has been.

Mark.b2

(778 posts)
52. I don't mean to be too personal, but he's still working at 69?
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 06:05 PM
1 hr ago

Does he just like working? I just don’t hear often of people working to 70, unless they’re a US Senator (hardly a grueling job!).

I’m 57 and making financial moves to retire by year-end. Finding a high-deductible/catastrophic medical plan so I can essentially self-insure is proving to be the hold up. Maybe my grandkids will get to have single payer someday so they don’t have to worry about such things!

If a person loves their job, then I’m all for them working until they want (unless they’re my airline pilot! lol).

waterwatcher123

(491 posts)
53. It might be a blessing in disguise (regardless of what they say, you do not have to work until you drop).
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 06:16 PM
1 hr ago

I retired from state service after 30 years of service at age 60. There is definitely an adjustment, especially for men who define themselves largely by their jobs. But it is fun to be able to go to the beach when everyone else is working and to fly during off peak days. He can always volunteer and use his skills in a new way that enriches both of your lives.

highplainsdem

(60,822 posts)
55. I'm so sorry he was laid off, but it does sound like the job was dangerously stressful. Maybe he
Sat Feb 7, 2026, 07:19 PM
33 min ago

can freelance working from home, make better money and control his own schedule?

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